I just want to tell you that you are too good for what is happening to you. I have to sit here and watch my friends all go through the same things. The biggest one right now is young mothers having children and their piece of shit boyfriends walking out on them.
Ok, I know you love them and I'm sure you're sitting there thinking, "She doesn't even know what its like to be in my position" but its not as hard as you think. Yes, raising a kid by yourself is hard but mothers do it every day. And most of you have the help and support of your parents and or your friends. You do NOT NEED that piece of shit to raise your baby.
Most stupid young boys our age think "oh having a baby would be so cool! I could teach it to play games and sports!" But they are usually just thinking about wanting someone to play with. Babies aren't meant to be played with at first, they require tons of care and you have to raise them to get older before teaching them sports. However, guys don't seem to see that until you are right about to give birth. They do not see the intensive care and time that needs to be put into having a child. After all, they don't have to do shit, they just sit there and wait for it to be born. They don't have to carry it around and get huge from it. (Just a note, not all guys are pieces of shits just a LOT of them from what I've seen with all my friends)
Everyone wants a perfect family and I have seen all my friends fall in love with the person they are having a child with. But they are not completely needed to raise the baby. You can do it it just wont be as easy and not what you wanted. But you know what, sometimes you dont get what you want. Thats life and its a bitch but you have to work with what you got.
If you have a kid with someone who decides 8 months into your pregnancy that he is not ready to be a father and that he still wants to be selfish and live his life, then forget about him. You have gone through breakups I'm sure. Yeah, they suck but it's just another thing you have to deal with in life.
It is 100000% better for you to get rid of the guy before the baby knows who he is then letting the asshole stay in his/her life for a little bit, get to know them, get them to know him and fall in love so to speak, then rip him out of their life and then try to explain to them later why "daddy doesnt love me" or "why don't I ever see dad?"
It's such a sad thought to think of your baby growing up without a dad but wouldn't you rather have them and get rid of their dad who doesn't want anything to do with them rather than push them into the kids life and have the kid always wondering why it has a broken family? Why do that when you get pretend he was never there and find someone who actually gives a shit about you and your baby. Someone you can actually be with and who will want to be in that situation and be the greatest father that kid will ever have?
Then there is always the situation where the kids father wants to be in the kids life but he doesn't want anything to do with you and says horrible things about you and is always trying to get the kid away from you. Honestly? I think these people are not worth it either and I personally would do anything in my power to keep my kid away from that. It sucks growing up in a home where your parents are always fighting for you and making you chose one or the other. It's hard when you're a child hearing one talk shit about the other.
I do understand that some couples just aren't meant to be together and they have kids. Like my parents weren't meant to be. They were not soul mates. Unfortunately they didn't realize it before they had me and my sister. After they did they both still wanted to work together and my dad made an effort to see me and sent child support for us. But sometimes that's hard to find. Most guys pretend they want to be in the kids life and then turn around and say "oh I'm not giving you money".
It also pisses me off when people leave their baby mommas and then bitch to their families about them and say they're a bad mother when they don't do anything for the baby or don't make any effort to go see it. Grow up! If you didn't want to be with her you should have worn a condom!
I guess what I'm trying to say to you guys is that if you have someone who just left you and your kid, don't worry. It's not the end of the world. If he was nice enough to leave you and your child after making you pregnant in the first place, then he isn't worth a tear. You and your kid will be MUCH better off living your life and not having someone like that in it. I guaruntee your kid will not know the difference between a single mother who does both positions and a family that has both. And when the day comes that they realize they dont have what some other families have, you can just tell them he is lost. That way when the right guy comes, you can say "I found him!" and live happily ever after :)
Hang in there girls, it will get better I promise. You just have to let go of the bad and the good will come :)
